Emotion Cards For Kids
Emotion Cards for kids
Why do I have such a hard time saying I love you to my parents and how can I change it?
When I was a kid, I went through a few years where I was very afraid of emotion. My parents were not there for me emotionally at all and I stopped telling them I loved them. My sister did the same thing. Neither of us ever started back saying it, although we both say it beautifully in cards and written emails and everything. I think, for my part, that I'm scared of the upwelling of emotion it'll cause if I start saying it. I'm sick of them saying it to me and not knowing what to say. I want to say it, but it just won't come. Any good ways to get over it? My parents don't know me emotionally very well still...I guess I hide that part of my life from them. I don't have a problem saying I love you to my husband or even to my friends.
You are having a hard time saying I love you to them because loving them has caused you pain in the past. You need to work on the issues that caused you to stop saying it before you can move on. You may need to sit down and talk to them about how they weren't there for you when you needed them and how its now hard for you to be emotionally vunerable with them. Talking it out will help in healing your relationship with them. Maybe they don't even realize how they hurt you.
If you love them then you will be able to say it eventually once you feel safe. If you don't love them (just b/c they gave birth to you doesn't mean you have to love them) then don't force yourself to say it just because they say it to you.
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